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Parents should remember that one day children will follow their examples instead of their advice.

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In the Old Testament, Job was a very faithful man whose faith was indeed put to the test.  He showed WAY more patience then I know I ever could.  Job lived a very faithful and righteous life yet he endured one affliction after another without cursing God. I think most of us would have lost our patience much earlier.

Patience is something I have been attempting to cultivate for a long time. While I often fail, I believe I have made some progress over the years, and things that used to get me ticked off I can now just let go. I still get upset, of course, but not nearly as much as I used to.  I guess 5-6 kids can wear you down a bit!

 

Here are a few tips that might help you become more patient, with practice:

1.        Got it down.  Once you become aware of your impulses, you can work out an alternative reaction.

2.      Figure out your triggers. Become more aware of the things that trigger you to lose that patience.

3.      Take deep breaths. When you first start to lose your patience, take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your mouth slowly.  Breathe deeply and slowly for two minutes.

4.      Name the Seven Dwarfs or recite the State Capitals. This one really works. When you feel yourself getting frustrated or angry, stop, think and name these things.  By the time you are finished.

5.      Take a time out. Often it’s best just to walk away for a few minutes. Take a break from the situation, just for 5 minutes, let yourself calm down, plan out your words and actions and solution, and then come back fresh.

6.      Remember what’s important. Sometimes we tend to get upset over silly things. In the long run, we won’t even remember these things tomorrow.  Shake it off!

7.       Find healthy ways to relieve frustration. I clean, clean, clean when I’m mad or frustrated.  Not only do I feel better and release energy but there is a wonderful outcome as well.

8.      Pray. This is definitely the most obvious one.  I almost didn’t even mention it because this should always, always, always be the first response.

9.      Just laugh. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that no one is perfect, that we should be enjoying this time with our loved ones, and that life should be fun — and funny.

10.   Say I love you and tell that person why you love them.  It is the best solution to any problem.

Words have awesome power to build us up or tear us down emotionally. Many people can clearly remember words of praise spoken years ago. Others can remember negative, cutting words–in extraordinary detail.

Psalm 49:3 My mouth will speak words of wisdom; the utterance from my heart will give understanding.

As a mother I try to remember this daily. 

Dear Lord, help me to be the mother my children deserve. Encourage my heart when I feel like a failure. Erase my errors from the hearts and minds of my children. Instead, help them to see Jesus in me, in Jesus’ Name, Amen.

 

 

 

 

 

 

I’ve been talking to several people lately about how having cancer at 38 changed my way of thinking.  I truly began to realize that no one ever has any idea what someone else is going through.  I notice that if you are frustrated with the car in front of you…cut them some slack…they may have just lost a loved one, had a medical procedure, been dealing with autistic children all day, diagnosed with a deadly disease….we have no idea.

Life is just so precious!  Everyone else you come into contact with has a life just as complicated as your own life…maybe even MORE complicated.  Even if you share similarities with others circumstances are always very different.

Don’t be so quick to judge others.  Whether it is how they dress, speak, look, raise their children, handle their finances, maintain their home, yard or vehicle, education, race, employment, anything…  Not only is it not our place it is the Lord’s place but it can have a devastating affect on us as Christians as well.  I strongly believe if we judge someone for something it will most definitely come to be a factor in our own lives.  Have you ever rolled your eyes about how someone has to used change to pay for items at the store only to find yourself needing to do it within only a few weeks?

Matthew 7:1“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

Luke 6:37 “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.

The next time you get antsy waiting on someone or in traffic or waiting for that funeral to proceed through the light….stop and say a little prayer for those individuals…you’ll feel much better for it!   Just a thought!